Why do you have to do IVF?

Because we have no chance of conceiving without IVF.

That's zero chance. That's not "I knew this couple once and they did IVF for years and finally gave up and then on her 44th birthday after they'd adopted two children they were completely surprised to find..." - no. Zero chance. Ever.

You see, infertility has many different causes. Some people are unable to conceive at all (that's not us, thank goodness), some are unable to conceive without assistance (that's us) and some are merely very unlikely to conceive without assistance (that's that couple you knew once).

So - zero chance. Ever. For real. Medically impossible. No matter what happened to so-and-so. Believe it - it's true. I should know.